Story:

I think I’m quite a stubborn person. Ever since I knew I was queer, I decided not to “come out of the closet”. Straight people don’t have dramatic revelations of their sexuality, and I didn’t see the point in them. The plan was that once I was in a relationship, I would be able to inform my parents and colleagues about my partner and let them know about my life in a way that would not make a spectacle out of the whole situation.

Long story short, it turned out to be harder to get into and maintain a relationship then I thought, and it became obvious my strategy wasn’t going to work :/

In the meantime, I got more and more familiar with drag as an art form online and during high school, in 2017 I decided it was something I wanted to try. I started playing with costumes and makeup and dance at home and I had my first performance at a viewing party in Pločnik bar in May of 2018 and my career slowly started from there.

My mom noticed that I started gathering costumes “flashy cloths” – mesh, neon, fake fur etc. It served as a good way to start some conversations about gender expression, gender identity and sexuality. It helped me ask my mom for a psychiatrist appointment for gender therapy, as I was still underage at the time. My parents are not well versed in queer terminology, but they understand enough to have a conversation with me and support me how they can.

I live quite freely and openly now, I’m not concerned with adjusting to the straight world or coming out. I talk openly about attending Pride parades, gender, queer clubs and my life in general, letting people come to whichever conclusions they want to. Every person is their own default, and I believe that we should not adapt to the dominant culture by putting ourselves in boxes. Living freely is the most radical option in this respect. Drag gave me the courage to do that, and I am always happy to share my knowledge when someone asks :)